Helicopter Parenting
The concept of “Helicopter Parent”, known as the protective parent approach, is often encountered today. These parents are:
They tremble intensely over their children,
In no way do they want their children to be upset,
They try to prevent every negative situation that their children face,
They aim to keep their children away from all the conflicts they will have with their friends,
They think that their children can do everything and should be successful.
When we look at the reason, many options come before us. The main reason is that children are afraid that false and exaggerated thoughts will appear and gradually increase every time they are not guided and observed. What if he falls down, gets upset, loses self-confidence, etc… Of course, there are also different situations that guide us under all these beliefs.
The shocking news we receive from mass media every day,
As a society, we should focus more on negative situations and shake our trust in each other,
How experts mislead parents using industrial psychology,
The products we buy in order to control our children are not used in accordance with their intended purpose.
When we look at the results, these children;
Having difficulty maintaining their self-control,
Not meeting the expectations in terms of social-emotional development,
Unable to control their emotions,
It is observed that there are children with an egocentric structure.
So how should parents behave and what should they do to avoid going through all this?
Listen to your children. Encourage them to express themselves. In this way, you will give them the opportunity to feel valued as an individual and at the same time develop their own point of view.
Do not scare, make logical explanations. Teach your children the concepts of safe and dangerous. Tell him that he should act carefully in dangerous places, that there will be no fear of asking for help when the place is located. Teach him that he can move comfortably in safe areas. Scaring is not the solution. Remember!
Do not offer the solution yourself. Guide, give time, support. Of course, for this, you must first be a good role model. Then he said, “How can you find a solution to this incident?” you can let him think by directing him with questions like.
Let them fail. Let them try, let them try, let them try, let them try again. Remember that children who make efforts go a better way of coping with difficulties.
Tell him what awaits him as a result of his behavior. When doing this, take into account the developmental characteristics of age. Mostly state your wishes in a clear and simple style without creating confusion with long sentences.
Mod College PDR Unit
