Being a Single Parent

The concept of single parenthood is the reality of today’s society. This fact can happen to us for many reasons, such as divorce, separation or the death of a spouse. Although there are many special reasons in it, the result is mostly the same. These;

Restoring the order of the house
Limitation of material resources
Gradually decreasing social life
It is the process of divorce and separation.

While being a parent alone is a difficult process, the situation becomes even more complicated when it is added to the restoration of household order. During these periods;

Stay at home if possible. In this way, your child will ensure his internal security more easily by not moving away from the place he knows and is accustomed to.
If you need to move out of home, remember that your child needs time. Know that it is necessary to act consistently as a priority at this stage.

Another difficulty faced by single parents is financial difficulties. Suddenly moving from a double life to a single life leads to a decrease in living standards. At this stage,

Research all the supports that the state offers you and make sure that you receive these supports. Although these fees are not too much, they will relieve you for a while.
A parent who is forced by increasing school fees should not hesitate to get help from grandma/grandma and grandpa in this process.

The other issue that can be addressed is the declining social life. Along with the divorce process, budget constraints and increasing responsibilities of your child negatively affect the social lives of parents. During this process;

Remember that you don’t need a crowded group of friends. Know that a few people who will be on your side and your supporters will be enough for you.
Try to contact your child’s circle of friends. In this way, you can spend quality time both with your parents and with your child’s friends.

The most important stage is the separation/divorce process. At this stage;

Accept the change. Do not disrupt your routines in order to pass this change process at a minimum level.
Explain the situation to him in accordance with the age of your child.
Communication with the mother/father who is not a guardian should be supported. Children should know when and at what intervals they will see their parents December.

So how are the children going through this process?
With the separation process, children express their feelings and thoughts in different ways. Experiencing insecurity, decline in skills, disruptions in sleep patterns and, most importantly, the emergence of behavioral problems are among the most common consequences.

Insecurity: The most obvious indicator that separation processes create on the child is insecurity. This situation ends with the child having too much contact with the parent, who is his guardian, and wanting to take that person to his safe zone. At this stage, parents should spend mom/dad hours as child-based and game-centered.
Regression of skills: Behaviors that can be learned, such as toilet training in younger age groups, sleep patterns, or academic achievement in older age groups, can lead to difficult processes. In this case, there is no need to worry. This is a behavior that can be taught and learned. Don’t worry, these skills will be acquired again when you settle down your routines.
Behaviors: Another condition seen in such difficult processes is behavioral problems. Children may be angry or resentful about the situation they are experiencing. Even if you don’t want to reflect this situation to them, they feel the energy and tension in the air. Because they cannot fully express themselves, they reflect their feelings with their behavior. Basically, the only thing that needs to be done is to act positively. Remember that children need relationships and hugs the most.
Mod College PDR Unit